It turns out mourning isn’t on as predictable a path as one of those tacos marauding its way through your body.
#4. People Do Not Grieve in Five Stages
The five stages are something one lone psychiatrist came up with in the 1960s for a book she was writing. There’s no evidence for it; it’s just something she thought she observed … while watching people in a completely different situation.
Here, ask yourself: Is there a stage that seems to be missing here? Well, how about the one where you yearn for the person to be alive again? As in, the emotion you actually feel the most after someone dies? Well, it’s not there because the five stages weren’t supposed to apply to people mourning the loss of others — they are emotions the terminally ill express when facing their own deaths.